How to with adolescent children, grow together

Thank God gives us children so that we can from kids who really enjoy , a lot of joy and a lot of fun , and can with the child grow together , from the child's life have a lot of learning. As children grow , we are often asked , and reflect on their own , God gave me this industry, I want her to where? in their lives Them , whether they do something, they own what kind of burden? For example: they want to engage in what work? They need to learn is at this stage most important a point in time .

When they find them in life in front of the goal and direction when they enter college , be sure to start thinking of the future to read which side of the class system , for many young people are making them feel at a loss for a Things. On the one hand they are too young, the other is that sometimes they really do not know their future for in which side the industry now of the choose which side class system. American education children from junior high school , when in school general there is a interest tests , some Christians site on also have this the test the subject of can provide our children to understand clearly , whether in their own knowledge , Talent , the interest on individual fine all aspects of in the end his thinking the direction of is not suitable for him . As a Christian parent , want the child in accordance with their interests , and his gift can be for God . On the one hand to help children have some interest in test , in addition to some websites , in fact, in school , some teachers can help their students have some understanding. This is helpful , because this is a person's interest, character , and so all parties to have more and more accurate and comprehensive understanding. Another very important point is , if the parents of children in the future the selected class , Department of is not very understanding , he can ask some of his friends or in this respect some understanding some people to with their children talk .

Strictly speaking, in the choice of when, in fact not the best time. Should be from their small, often share with them some of their interests , and even dreaming about the future to do does not matter. If so , the choice of when , not that there is no worry, but stripped of loss. For example : When the children to choose a reading psychology, such a choice, with his faith whether together ? Theology with psychology in many ways mutually exclusive. But by our church a good sister , she is learning in this regard, once her own initiative told me about , she was willing to with our daughter talk to help her, in the absence of entering the school before a mental Preparation. She knew that psychology can be used in serving the above because that I am more sure my little daughter's choice, I have more at ease . Through of psychology the study , but also be able to of human nature have deeper understanding . On people's psychological all aspects of state , needs. Through a number of academic knowledge, but also to for people the different needs to help them.

When the children entered college , parents are also worried and frightened, but also looking forward to . Because parents know that this is children leave their parents after the , the real show of her own , the real his to God time of . Because parents are not around her . This is the expected part. could not bear to The mood have, when the child has grown to a stageThere will be joy. kids go to college After the , parents also understand from now on, their return home days of fewer and fewer , finish college , get married , their own families , have their own world and life. When the child was flown , we parents can do is continued for them pray , because their parents away, only God is them to rely on . Regardless of his in any one of situation which , if God had become his help, parents will not worry about it. Parents and children will also be a good friend, whether in telephone or computer , there will be a lot of sharing. We can see from the role of parents into a real good friend. Can with him share life the joy of , or is painful sorrow. Want their children in times of difficulties , the parents of one in his side to encourage him , help him a role.

On how to influence the children, will test before the parents their children the impact how important . When children have problems , he is not the first thought with their parents to discuss , is not solid in a very strict a rock top of . This is children the process of growing need their parents to establish a trust that he faced several difficulties , do not know how to choose and face , the first to thought is to their parents talk .

marriage What is ?

Lead: the secret of happiness - studying that marriage and family the wisdom of


In front of two fruit to share the happiness of the secret of the topic , talking about "return to traditional family "and" make life diffuse a little . " This issue, we continue to extend this topic to share in the family life in happiness of another secret is to learn that marriage and family the wisdom of . American marriage expert David Olsen once said: "Marriage is a to learn complex system . " He will be "Marriage is what " tells us: marriage What is ; why the in marriage only love is not enough ? Marriage is a problem how to do? " love again "tells a husband and father the story of , he had to he thought the right way love his wife and children , thinking they have a good future can give the family more happiness and security of , wanted to talk but hurt Family. The brave and wise men, willing to re-learn his in the family role , and finally became a real to the family bring satisfaction and happiness a good husband and father.


" want people to love one another, may all human have to pay the ultimate price for tasks , the most difficult one. other efforts are just for the love to prepare it . "

- Rainier • Maria • Lick (Rainier Maria Rilke)

Marriage, can be all human relationships the most nourishing the people, and most lasting kind of relationship. Ironically, the marriage may be human relationships , the most disappointing setbacks, and the most conflicting kind of relationship.

Marriage can bring great joy , it can be deep pain a source of , but it is strength and vulnerability a unique combination of . In marriage among the individual can find happiness the source of , and the world rest of the . But the marriage may also be on the couple a negative impact , making their marriage thinking about quitting.

Emotional Feelings of is only marriage complexity a part of . Marriage is not an isolated system , there are many factors that affect the marriage , but also by the marriage affected , including social , work, family, religion , friendship , and each person's background , habits and personality traits .

marriage The decline of


In recent decades, there are several to marriage related trends emerging . In American society , the married size the total population percentage of , from in 1970 to 68% decline to 56 % ( U.S. Census Bureau , 1998) .

The second trend is that never married and after the divorce choose not to marry the total population is increasing. Those who have never married the total population from 1970 of 16 % to in 1996 23% . Divorced the total population from in 1970 3% growth of to in 1996 10% .

The third trend is that cohabiting couples of the total population increase. In 1970, only five hundred thousand pairs of men and women living together ; But in 1996, living together the number of as much as 3.7 million pairs ; to 1998, even more than four million pairs .

While most people life, at least will choose married once , but it is obvious choose to remarry who fewer , replaced remain single , or choose to live together without getting married. All in all , marriage in the past three decades, has shown a decline in the phenomenon, and there is no evidence in the foreseeable future, this situation will be any reversal.

marriage The value of


Although the marriage the total population gradually reduce , but marriage is for society, families and individuals still has many advantages. married people Most healthier , live longer , have more wealth and economic assets , and more than singles , and cohabitants have a more satisfying sexual relationship. In addition , those two-parent families grow up in children , usually in the mood and academic performance better . Let us in more detail look at these benefits :
Married, have a more healthy lifestyle .
Married Live longer .
Married, have a more satisfying sexual relationship.
Married, has a more substantial economic assets.
two-parent families Children in are usually better performance .

Why love is not enough ?


"Love is you need all , "" Love makes the world go around , "" Love is never need to say sorry "... ... in our society , there are so many about love quotes , that in this society it seems Stressed love, and give it too much power . Although love is indeed a very powerful emotion , but finds love is a person needs all , it is not practical idea. How do we know that only love is not enough to make marriage a happy it ? from Most of the Americans getting married when they claim to love one another , but the divorce rate remains at 50% to be proved.

In addition , in many couples, one partner than the other happy. This may be the spouse among of marital satisfaction low correlation displayed. The so-called "low relevance " is, if you know the spouse 's marital satisfaction , then so to predict the other party marital satisfaction the accuracy of , only 25 %.

Study also pointed out that many unhappy couples still remain marriage . Fower and Olson (1993 ) in the view different marital relationship types of , it was found that of marriage type the more traditional ( a firm view of religion , the traditional division of labor , for their children education and religion with a high degree of consistency ) of the couples are not happy Ratio than other types of couples to be high, but divorce likelihood of have to much lower .

Problems how to do?


Love is important, but only love and not enough to sustain a healthy, energetic and happy marriage. Maintain relations skills, especially communication and conflict management skills , as the couple to marriage 's commitment in general, is indispensable.

Since each person's personality is different, partners the marriage put into the contents of have each are different, so each couple's relationship is unique. Bread as an example: bread the material ─ ─ flour, yeast , salt , water ─ ─ Each is unique and with the bread very different . Bread and marriage , they are the whole is greater than of all part of the sum . That is why we even know some of the related elements , but also can not be predicted the marital relationship the reasons for .

As husband and wife the relationship between The complexity of , we can not most of situation of do the general inference . Therefore , you are the their marital relationship experts in . If your current partner relationship , there are many unresolved issues , to seek professional help is very important. you The sooner get help , these issues the more likely from between in a stumbling block into a stepping stone .

Love Ten Commandments of III - Ten Commandments

Huang Weiren love the Ten Commandments ( c ): to establish a good of love relationship

The third commandment : To avoid fall in love the early , too to his past weak , privacy, the hearts of anxiety, all told each other.

in love Early , if one of them to be honest on the ground , of the past the worst thing , the hearts of anxiety, all spilling into each other's body, but whether the other party is not willing to listen, there are no mentally prepared. Apparently , such an honest performance, because in love before there should not be withheld , but in reality , this is a selfish expression. emotionally Too dependent on each other , be forced love to bring you happy , for your emotions and sense of security responsibility for such a long time down, not only will lose respect for each other , and sometimes lead to the other party can not stand to leave .

past Painful , when it can tell each other , there must be wisdom. Spoke too soon, the other side were you scared off . Too late , they will feel cheated . This is not certain rules. for each person The situation is different , exposure degree of not the same . When it comes to special case , it is best to consult guidance. usually Together they accept the pre-marriage counseling , it will be a good time , in a secure environment to these things all of communicate with out. Love to learn , but also need wisdom.

Whether their partners can have a secret , hidden life ?

In the husband-wife relationship , you can have some of the mystery inside. Husband and wife as two circles , and a lot of common ground. Intersection vary in over time the migration and variation . When the two under the pressure , the intersection where more. When the pressure is relatively hour or two to out to explore. Each person can have A certain percentage of a single of their own secret . But with each other trust the strengthening of , they can be more transparent , but can not be forced . Therefore , the best way is to establish a good love relationship. And transparent is this relationship the result of .


The fourth commandment : to understand the of love psychological dynamics

love Increasingly reluctant , love the fire more difficult to ignite .

ignited The fire need two important elements: to have love the fuel and oxygen.

1, of love the fuel : their own to maintain confidence in , let themselves into an interesting , attractive people.

2 , love oxygen : they need space

Love fear most is the beginning to always stick together. But after a period of time, one person into a "space suitors " , the other is the "intimate relationship Chaser . " When one intends to alienate when the Chaser will feel anxiety, feel psychosocial the love is not enough to go to attract space seekers the attention . This is a very natural phenomenon . Sometimes one chase too hard , the space the seeker will between end .

To maintain a successful love , it is necessary their own to maintain confidence in , to understand from the Department, have their own interest, each other there are considerate and respect . If the other party is not willing , will not to feel safe need , and blindly insist on the other side to meet me.

The fifth commandment : contact After , avoid self-centered , to maintain respect , do not force the other party do not want to do .

They inevitably there are differences, but on the other side to maintain respect, tolerance , kindness attitude. Do not block your lover's goals, try your best to meet his / her needs, look for win-win solution. unless the truth about , so as not to hinder each other to do what he loves to do. to work Communication and conflict resolution skills and seek a win-win approach, go and other meet his needs.

Huang Weiren love the Ten Commandments (f ): revere

To continue to maintain the mutual respect attitude of , not like many couples , as in the tokens of love , the began to disorder their own speak attitude and dress code .

Weiren love the Ten Commandments (g) : Character is more important than appearance
Spouse , the character ( loyalty , kindness, goodness ) than appearance is more important .

Young people are easily the other side of the external conditions attracted to , but in fact character , loyalty , kindness, goodness , than the appearance, how much , places more important . Marriage Can happiness, inner is the key.
Weiren love the Ten Commandments ( VIII): observe each other 's relationships
Do not just focus on the other side of their own how , but also observe each other 's relationships.

In exchange , we should continue to face up , do not by love carried away . Going to visit each other's family , to see with his parents how to get along , with his family how to get along ? relationships How do ? towards animals Attitude ? A person is not healthy relationships, with the future well-being is absolutely relevant. If only nice to you, is very real and dangerous.

When a person self-worth , self-esteem is weak , as long as people are nice , it is easy to sink into , there is no chance to see each other in the end is. So first find self-worth.

Huang Weiren love the Ten Commandments (IX ): to participate in premarital counseling

when the two discussed marriage After , looking counseling to do pre-marital to prepare .

Do psychological testing , let each other know family of origin the background of , with each other communication way of . In premarital counseling , with each other learning to communicate and see each other's differences.

For example, want to have kids ? To , when there ? Family distributed? both sides of the money Views on ? Of both parents Attitude ? To not send money home? to send How much ? If they before marriage have some consensus , then marriage can reduce many problems.

Marriage is equal to two each with an own blueprint to build a marriage house, it is a very difficult task. This is why pre-marital preparation is so important !

Huang Weiren love the Ten Commandments (x) : pre-marital anxiety

To understand some people have " pre-marital anxiety "response.

In the subconscious, obviously love each other, but on the other side there are some doubts. Many people marriage will want to explore whether the may have other options. For example, all of a sudden tell each other , said: " We are going to get married , but I always feel like the opportunity to begin with other people exchanges what , before decisions are not willing to marry you . "

This is a very common phenomenon . Then the other would panic. But please do not immediately become a chaser , desperately chase each other. In fact, this is a faith test of . Remember , love requires space when feel very anxious the time to go to counseling, to focus their growth on . Remember, a healthy self-confidence and personality maturity is attraction the source of . When the other party after a period of exploration of the process, but will willingly follow you forever. Think carefully about the only set foot on the red carpet , it's not a bad thing.

Conclusion : People not the Ten Commandments have do , but the more you do , in the future to eat bitter the less . May God bless each and every of love seeker .

of Dr. Huang Weiren current at Northwestern University School of Medicine clinical psychologist , was the students honored as "Dr. Love" ( Love Dr. ). American love Society of International Speaker . Been invited in the United States , Canada , Singapore, Malaysia, China, Hong Kong, Taiwan led to marriage, family and psychological workshops. in 2001 Malaysian government organized the first International Family Conference as the " most popular speakers . " And in October 2004 was invited the United Nations World Family Conference of keynote speaker . Dr Wong is in May 2002 should be the U.S. government invited to the White House audience with George W. Bush (Bush) president of the three Chinese leaders.

Love to win everything

Years ago , in the United States Boston, the town has a名叫安比斯most blacks live . There are some people in town every morning to go to work by bus , but bus drivers have a " vice " : a white car will stop so , otherwise walk away .

A white woman named Chelsea , she is a warehouse town caretaker . In order to make the town get on the bus black , she would walk three miles every morning to the station from home , standing there and waiting for the bus with black people , she stood on top of the most visible location for public transport Drivers can see her, and all other blacks on the train , she went to guard the warehouse unit . Black town are very grateful to Chelsea as they have done .

One day, Chelsea fever, very weak , but she still insisted to the station to the station , she stood , standing on suddenly collapsed , and all the black people have come around and put Chelsea to the hospital. Soon all the people in town came to see her.
A reporter to see this moving scene , then write a story . Soon , Chelsea moved by the entire United States. One congressman suggested , use the law to protect the rights of the black car . Soon, the U.S. Congress passed a new law , the operating time, bus drivers must stop at every station , not to refuse , or to a fine of one thousand U.S. dollars , or sentenced to 10 days imprisonment .

Since then, living in An Bisi black can be successfully took the bus trip up .
In order to express respect and gratitude of Chelsea , the town decided to name the small station waiting for the bus station for Chelsea and there built a statue for the Chelsea .

Even now , every morning the statue was taken the initiative to wipe Chelsea .
A warehouse Attendant Ai Momo to contribute their own to others, such a pure heart, for those who love the bear , is unforgettable . So, when a person is respected , and was one borne in mind , you have to clear, it is not because good-looking , not because of lofty position , but because he (she ) do everything possible to give a love for others .

Family Troubleshooting : How do spouses before marriage infidelity problems?

What happens in a church : a Christian husband and wife wedding night , the brothers found his wife Bing , after non- virgins too difficult , and very disappointed that she did not " chaste . " So, according to the teachings of the Bible , how to handle this situation ? Husband to lift the marriage relationship, or should be tolerance and understanding?

What happens in a church : a Christian husband and wife wedding night , the brothers found his wife Bing , after non- virgins too difficult , and very disappointed that she did not " chaste . " Confess everything to his wife , Bing explained that she believed the Lord had other boyfriends before MN frequency revealed improper sexual experience before marriage . However, the main letter , she has repented Bing learned self-love , no physical crime . However , she and her husband are now contacts , I feel he is too conservative , afraid not accept her past , and he dared not say so ... ... But the paper is smoke there's fire , things were revealed, who also heard how brothers Not enter his wife 's explanation that he was deceived , but also consider themselves very conservative , willing and "non- virgin "marriage , then divorce . He said he could not stomach that she is not a virgin of this matter, but could not bear to hide her and think this will affect their life, even if reluctantly with my heart will have a pimple , do not forget as soon be over . So, according to the teachings of the Bible , how to handle this situation ? Husband to lift the marriage relationship, or should be tolerance and understanding?

Niuyuenanta Light Baptist Church Pastor , director Gu Qiwei Answer:

Dear readers , this Christian couple can become a hundred years is worth congratulating the good things He Hao . But their combination is worth discussion in detail.

First, the brothers of love overnight changed the face because of his wife's past is not a result of chastity , also shows that the conservative brethren , but too narrow thinking led him from one extreme to the other extreme , shows that he In view of the immaturity of marriage .

The second , in fact, the first from the perspective of God , the world are sinners , are contaminated with filthy world , including that of the faithful wife , have a sin against God , to offend people, sins against his own body parts , so we need to Precious Blood of Jesus Christ and the pardon covered . Even if the brothers know his wife had a bad past , she should be pardoned from the heart , because it was committed by her ignorance , not to mention God has forgiven her sins . The husband should forgive sinners from the perspective of God to love his wife .

Thirdly, the sisters , they should understand that love should start making friends Zhi You should know this. There are friends to each other early Christians , in particular, to lay before the marriage , usually in dealings with each other to explain their love of natural history and experience, the other party 's understanding and trust. Here's a confidence problem , if she bravely face this difficulty, tears of repentance , the Holy Spirit can move each other to forgive this sin .

Fourth, the brothers want to get married later withdraw from the husband and wife with divorce is to meet his good strong heart, that he is innocent, holy, this would be inappropriate. He does not understand that divorce brings a series of difficult problems , are inconceivable . Both are great for combat and scars . Brothers should think about themselves and then " holy "or with a sinful nature. Since God can pardon sinners on earth , since God has released his wife , why he could not forgive her?

Fifth, the brother of the idea is too simple rash and reckless , but also should be a change of their own personality.

In short, the couple find the best church pastor and marriage counselor for help , to understand the meaning of marriage in order to achieve mutual forgiveness , mutual forgiveness and mutual tolerance , repair loopholes in marriage , the love of Jesus Christ to forgive each other , to re-establish A satisfactory relationship of marriage .

How can we not sing me ?

Robert . Laurie (Robert Lowry) that the greatest contribution in this life, he is preaching, however, is the pastor of the nineteenth century to gospel songs and poems leaving a legacy. Laurie set to music lyrics more than 500 hymns , including " Resurrection "(Christ Arose), " I always need You "(I Need Thee Every Hour) And " River of life together "(Shall We Gather at the River) .

1860, When the United States, the outbreak of the Civil War , Laurie wrote these timeless words , stressed the need to carefully observe the body of Christ never changes , and not full of threats to the environment .

Joy of well-being disappeared , how ?

My Savior forever alive .

Gathering darkness , how ?

He has been giving new songs at night .

When I hide it a haven

No wind and rain to shake the heart stable ;

Since the Christian world power,

How can I not teach singing ?

Laurie is still deep trust in God, hard times , echoing the poem the poet 's words: " Do not rely on the king , do not rely on the world , he can not help a bit... ...God of Jacob for the help , look up to the Lord his God , that he meditates ! "( Psalm146Posts3-5Section )

Our attitude toward life will be full of confidence , or with fear , depending on where our focus . When that " the Lord will reign forever "(10Section ), how can we not sing ?DCM

If you are with Christ, and Ming , the dark you will be able to sing .

Reflections of life and human nature

Lingyun today to share with everyone one from Liu's article, the name is the most delicate parts of the mind , Lingyun Liu Yung am sure this article will bring our feeling, will bring us to life and human nature Deep reflection step .

My heart always hide its three stories , each think are surprised . Because I thought he was very smart, very objective , until the experience of these stories before we find many things that only people involved in person before they can understand . It is human nature the most delicate feeling , it is difficult to determine the secular standards .
　　 When I was teaching at St. John's University , when a colleague of mine , we had a Down's Syndrome brother , but when his wife was pregnant , actually not for amniocentesis , but also gave birth to a " Mongolian children . " News , everyone says he stupid , knowing that the possibility of a genetic spectrum is also less effect . I also wrote about this in the article, ironically, he 's stupid .
　　 One day he said to me : "Actually my wife made to puncture , also tested positive for the spectrum is concerned, we decided to abortion . But on the morning of abortion in the appointment , my mother took my brother together . my Mongolia Syndrome brother , that what my wife got very ill , first took my wife's hand , has said: 『 Take care ! Take care ! 』 , they came , flapping at me, hugged me tightly , said : 『 brother , God will Bless you . 』 they left, I told my wife sat in silence for a long time . "
　　 "Yes ! I blame the parents why the students have a Mongolian children , spend a lot of time on him. But I also found that , after all he is my brother , he was so in love with me, and made no secret of show it. I My wife would like , if the stomach is a like my brother for real children , we can because he is stupid , take him to kill ? He is also a life, he is God's gift ah ! Therefore, we call your doctor That we 're not going ... ... "
　　 20 years ago , I have a TV reporter when interviewed on one occasion to go to Korea, the Asian Film Festival . Procedures for going abroad was difficult to do , not only all kinds of documents , and may request the company's personnel and units of the security letter . I finally had the documents prepared , sent an agent to the Motion Picture Association President . However, only back to the company , they received a phone call telling me stripped of one thing .
　　 " I just put in one envelope to your ah ! "I said.
　　 "No ! I did not see ! " the other answered categorically .
　　 I immediately rush to the shadow Hsimenting Association office , to tell him face to face , I do own thin point , and then is packed in brown paper envelope to him.
　　 He raised my envelope , shook it and said: "No ! "
　　 "I honor, I installed ! "I cried .
　　 "I honor, I did not receive ! " he bellowed back .
　　 "You look around to see , what must fall in place ! "I shouted even louder .
　　 " I had looked , I'm not confused , you will not give me. " he shouted louder .
　　 Seeing an interview soon , and I angrily back to the company , went to a pass, a pass, "seeking Grandpa , Grandma told " to do the paper . In office , I suddenly received a Film , " that person " phone : "Sorry ! Mr. Liu , is not I do not care where the file in another folder , and I'm not , I really was not , I really was not one ... ... "
　　 I Zheng Zhu , and forget how hung up the phone .
　　 Today, I have forgotten the man 's appearance . But I do not know why, I always forget the "he" , obviously he was wrong , but I think he is great . He obviously could save their face , to find something to cover his tracks . However, he did not do so , he came to admit . I admire him and think he is a brave man .
　　 Many years ago, I invited Chinese Ink Painting Association of the United States , as the current international ink painting exhibition full trial . The so-called " full trial "is the exhibition only by my personal assessment , selected not elected , not winning awards , won by my words .
　　 They aim to do so , on the one hand respect for the trial , on the one hand to avoid many of the assessment " taste " odds , finally turned the " middle ground "in Entries . Please show as a different style of each of the trial , so that the works of various styles , there is always opportunity to get popular .
　　 That review , I prepared a small sticker , first for their own " preferred " work paste , then remove it carefully .
　　 Assessment is completed , the organizers invited me to dinner , and then pick me up from the women to send me home. Evening, while she drove the one hand, smiled and asked : " Excuse me ! Professor Lau , I do not know can not ask a question . there is no meaning , I just want to know why the photograph of a group of red rocks and painted birds , you first posted Label , and later removed the case? "
　　 " that painting really good, but I feel a little hard strokes , places are limited , only ... ... " I smiled : "You know the artist it? "
　　 "Know ! " She said: " I am ! "
　　 I do not know why, my face turned red . She is the head of one of the Chinese Ink Painting Association , and from start to finish with me , she just gave me a little hint in advance , said it was her painting, I even further objective , may be affected , at least , not the last unsuccessful Her .
　　 To this day, for ten years, I forget her . Although I can say that again , but felt she owed .
　　 3 the story . From the secular point of view , that the professor is a fool , that the Society's President is a fool video , that lady is a moron Chinese Ink Painting Association . However, in my mind, they are the most real person. In the ordinary world , we need , not necessarily a hero , man, but that so true , real , can not be loyal to secular , There is none who bear their own conscience .
　　 Every time I judge a person before an incident or will think of these three stories , they taught me a lot , they taught me to use " eyes "see also "heart" look . When I saw the most delicate mind , and often have 180 degree turn .
　　 Dear listeners , this article is to give you the true meaning of life and wake up thinking it more ? Lingyun like the New Testament Gospel of Matthew ( 9:35-36 ) : Jesus went through all the towns and villages, teaching in their synagogues , and preaching the gospel of the kingdom , and healing every disease and sickness , he saw many people , the Have mercy on them because they were harassed and helpless . Because Jesus saw their struggle , their anxiety , their helplessness , their expectations . Dear friends, we can see many people every day , when you see them, you see , what else is ? Whether we could be like Jesus , we can see the emptiness of their minds , see their inner struggles , their loneliness , their pain , their despair, they help ? From their life circumstances , from their spiritual needs , we have seen our share of responsibility? When we see people around us , life needs , you will take what action to help them to become life hit many of the angels .
　　 In this complex the world , because they are aware of some hatred, indifference, selfish thing , we learned to protect themselves , we have been hurt , Suo Yi again been hurt we fear , we close to your heart and love to become a luxury Products . Lost love, we lose the peace and joy, there is no loss of life, meaning of love , our hearts become a withered fields , without vitality , without the United States , my dear friends, let me search for the lost Love it , let us re- or in love . We can not change other people , but we can change ourselves. Let us open our hearts , open our hearts because he can make love, living water flow into our hearts. Our Lord Jesus Christ , he is the source of living water , he can use love to pour our hearts , dear brothers and sisters, today your heart ready yet? Would you like to hate your worries , pain , grief , and resentment are lifted from your heart it? Let us look to His mercy , to pray for the eternal love by Jesus . Lord ah , please use me, do you love angels , Lord , ah, help me warm this cold world.
　　 Life we must learn the lessons , life is short , short to hate us no time to any person of life every time a fight , we must win . You may wish to agree to have different views , may wish to live harmonious with your past it, do not let it trouble your life now . Do not take your life and others more , you do not know what their lives will change . Blink of an eye , what will change, but do not worry, our God will not nap , the useless , ugly are all forget all that can not be sure who killed your life will become stronger.

Once again the joy of childhood is never too late , but the second can only rely on their own can not rely on others, candle , with the best sheets , wear the best pajamas , do not wait until the best occasions to use , in fact, Today is the best day. Fully prepared , then let it run into bad luck , say five years , will this matter? Forgive everyone everything , you might have a happy life together , how others think of your business , time can heal any wounds. But to give time to time , a miracle occurs .

God loves you because he is God , not because of anything you did or did not do , do not always recall life, now go show it, and play around , now go out , the miracle is waiting for you . If we put the piled together, watching the others , we'll own to grab ours back.

Jealousy is a waste of time , because you already have everything you need , no matter how you feel , get up , dressed , good performance of yourself . If you do not request, you must vain . Life has not been tied bow, but it is still a gift .

Paul in the Bible Philippians ( 4:10-13 ) : I trust in the Lord greatly rejoice , because you care for me now has occurred; you always take thought for me , but did not get the opportunity . But I will not say them in any situation can be content with what I have learned . I know how to lowly office , but also know how to have wealth , or satiety , or relieve their hunger , or more than , or lack of , with the matter as in , I have learned the secret . I trust in him who gives me strength , and all can be . Yes, we through him who gives us the power of God .

I finally darling

Then four years , I was busy when the high school English teacher and raising four children , had never thought of remarriage . Whether single or married, I have been very satisfied and confident that if God wanted me to remarry , I certainly do not need to charge Chuihuizhili , will the husband sent to me. So if I have the opportunity to prepare for remarriage , listing the conditions for the future husband .

I look forward to the future husband has the following qualities : First of all, is a committed Christian , able to make my children's spiritual leader; Secondly, my four children to accept him and love him.

Third, he must love my kids , understand them and get along with them . Fourth, he also has a global vision , like travel to other countries , like the International Student Services ( My job is to care at the local university for international students ) . Also, his financial should be stable, need not be very rich, but enough to feed my children.

One day, her daughter home from school , encouraged me to meet her friend 's father. He is a widower , looking very lonely. Although I am not very interested , but one daughter and her friends to join the basketball game , he came late , when only my side is available. He explained to me all night for the match . The next week , he called me , about my dinner started from our love relationship .

Marvin turned out I found all the conditions and quality : he is a committed Christian ; he is a retired Army colonel , has been traveling around the world , and love the international students; my kids immediately fell in love with him. Twenty years later he died, his eldest son to mourn his funeral , said Marvin the lives of their brothers and sisters have a profound impact . He also quite good in the financial , much better than me .

Marvin is fully consistent with my perfect husband, the ideal conditions , only one exception . I forgot implicit in the conditions , some number of children he can ! First date , he told me that he had nine children , and five of them are teenagers and live in the home , the two add up to a total of nine young people !